Just a food for thought....
Are relationships really that fragile?
Nah, don't worry, I'm not having any problem with my r/s right now.. But this is one question that really sets me thinking and ponder. Okay firstly, what triggered me to post to entry is the perpetual words of "I broke up with my gf" and "I broke up with my bf" that I kept hearing from friends around me and darling's friends.
Some of the most common reasons: -
1) "I see no future with him/her"
Oh what the heck, I think this is the most ridiculous excuse ever. What sense does it make to mention the word FUTURE when you are only about 20 years plus of age? He simply meant that he's uncertain if he's able to live on with her in the next 10, 20, 30 years and the rest of his life. Okay I shall put my point across here. Being in a relationship means that you should understand each other needs and wants, accept him/her for WHO he/she is. Nobody is perfect, nobody is flawless. Even if you think that he/she is not the one for you right now right at this moment, it doesn't mean that the couple can't work things out together right? Unless you guys have tried for the umpteenth time and still to no avail, I think that one shouldn't give up on a relationship so easily (that is IF they really really love each other.) In my regard, being able to find someone whom you truly love is like hitting the bull's eye with a bluntly pointed dart. Haha I've never felt like this before during my teenage days but to date, I've kinda come to realise the true "feeling" of being in love. Even if his/her attitude or actions are totally getting on your nerves, try talking to the other party nicely and work things out. Concluding a relationship with "I see no future with you" is the silliest thing to do.
2) "I've fallen for somebody else."
This sounds inevitable somehow. People change their hearts just like how seasons change. But to me, this sounds more like a BETRAYAL.
3) "He/she is not give me enough freedom"
Hahaha I don't know how many times have I heard my friends complaining to me about this. Everyone needs their own breathing space I guess? Being in a relationship doesn't mean you're OBLIGED to spend most of your time with your bf/gf. We have our families and friends, don't we have to spend some time with them too? Think about this, if something were to happen to your relationship and you need some comfort or consolation, they are the ones who will be there for you. I think seeing each other EVERYDAY before marriage is totally ridiculous and unhealthy for a relationship. Call it gluey. I detest it.
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Haha I'm actually very contented with how my relationship is going now. We're okay with each other going out with our own friends, we're not complaining that we're not spending enough time with each other, and most importantly, we seem to understand each other pretty well.
I'm used to... my lazybones bf who is totally ignorant to any noise in the surroundings when he's asleep, and I'd chain-call him PATIENTLY till he wakes up.
I'm used to... eating just normal foodcourt/hawker food and not splurging on expensive food like how we did last time (darling spent 1k just on food for the 1st 7mths we were tgt). It's the company that matters afterall. :)
I'm used to... him hanging out with his friends late at night, playing mahjong till wee hours in the morning. That's because I trust him and most importantly, he's a really great bf who will tell me beforehand if he's going to play mahjong or something. It was because of his truthfulness and transparency that built up the trust I have for him.
I'm used to... him calling me every night since we got together and we'd crap till we crack. HAHA!
I'm a happy girl! :) :)